Not Your Average Death Blog
What Every Parent Needs to Know When Their Child Turns 18
When your child legally becomes an adult at age 18, a lot changes.
You can still pay their tuition, keep them on your health insurance, pack their favorite snacks for the dorm. But in a medical emergency, you don’t have a right to their healthcare information.
Sadly, most parents don’t realize this until there’s an unexpected crisis.
Today on The Death Readiness Podcast, I share the stories of two young women whose families fought landmark legal battles because neither had signed an advance healthcare directive before tragedy struck. Their stories made national headlines, and they also left a legacy we can learn from.
Why Prenups Aren’t Just for the Rich (or the Divorcing)
Most people associate prenuptial agreements with cynicism, mistrust, or worst-case scenarios. But what if we’ve been looking at them all wrong?
In this week’s episode of The Death Readiness Podcast, we’re flipping the script. I sit down with family dynamics coach, Emily Bouchard, to talk about how hard, honest, ongoing conversations about money can actually strengthen relationships.
What You Need to Know About Medicaid and Protecting Your Mom’s House
I get asked this all the time: “Should we put mom’s house in a trust in case she needs nursing home care?”
In today’s Tuesday Triage episode, I answer that question through the story of a listener named Eileen. She’s 73, lives alone in upstate New York, and owns her home. Her son-in-law thinks she should put her house in a trust to “protect it from the government.” Eileen’s not so sure.
Why You Need (or Don’t Need) a Trust
If you’ve ever been told, “You need a trust,” and didn’t quite know what that meant, you’re not alone.
It’s something people hear from well-meaning friends, financial advisors, or maybe even their parents. But rarely does anyone slow down and explain why you might need one or whether it makes sense for your situation.
That’s what this week’s Tuesday Triage episode is all about.
What to Do with a Dead Body, Who’s in Charge, and Who Pays
When someone close to you dies, even if it’s expected, it knocks the wind out of you. You’re left juggling grief and logistics all at once.
This week, I spoke with funeral director Jamie Sarche to better understand what actually happens when someone dies.
Preparing for your Parent’s Cognitive Decline Before it’s too Late
When a parent’s health starts to decline, the questions you never wanted to ask become urgent. Bills still need to be paid, decisions still need to be made. Are you legally allowed to step in?
This week on our first Tuesday Triage episode, I tackled a question from a listener named Molly. Her situation might sound familiar to you.
How to Prevent your Estate Plan from Becoming a Family Battlefield
In Michigan, a recent guardianship case caught my attention—not just because it happened where I live, but because it’s the kind of story I see over and over again, in different forms, across the country.
Why I Turned Off Alex Hormozi’s Podcast
Like many small business owners, I’m always working and always learning.
Podcasts are one of my favorite ways to learn. They fit into dog walks, dishwashing, and school pickup lines—moments when I want my brain to stay active even if my hands are full.
This morning, while walking my dog, I pressed play on The Game with Alex Hormozi. I’m new to his show. This was maybe my third episode.
Alex was talking about what he called “exploitation mode,” his strategy for extracting the most value from the thing you already have. I was listening in, curious about how to apply that mindset to my business.
How Our Favorite Movies Trained Us to Accept Less
When you think about “estate planning,” old rom-coms probably don’t come to mind. But maybe they should. Because for many of us, the movies we grew up watching taught us more than we realized, especially about what we’re expected to accept.
These movies quietly trained us to accept less: less agency, less credit, less space, less support. And those lessons show up everywhere, from hospital rooms to attorney meetings, from caregiving roles to family finances.
In Episode 15 of The Death Readiness Podcast, I take a closer look at these cultural scripts, and how they still shape the way many women carry the emotional and logistical weight of family life.
If “Everyone Is Welcome” is too political, what kind of legacy are we creating?
Legacy isn’t just about wills and wealth. It’s the story we leave behind in our families, our communities, and our public institutions. It’s passed down in words and in silences, in the posters that stay on the wall, and in the ones we quietly take down.
The next generation is watching.
How to Succeed in the Caregiving Role No One Trained You For
Caregiving isn’t side work - it’s a leadership position. Host Jill Mastroianni talks with Jennifer O’Brien, author of Care Boss and The Hospice Doctor’s Widow, about the emotional labor, strategic thinking, and societal blind spots surrounding caregiving. Drawing from her experience leading healthcare organizations as well as caring for her husband and parents, Jennifer challenges the notion of caregiving as “soft” work and offers real-world tools to do it well. We cover everything from palliative care to “go bags” to how not to offer help to a caregiver.
How Joseph Pulitzer’s 1864 Plunge Into Boston Harbor Helps Us Understand Memorial Day
Memorial Day began in the ashes of the Civil War. It started with families—ordinary people—who began placing spring flowers on the graves of their dead. Many of the dead weren’t even American citizens yet. I learned this after reading Sharon McMahon’s recent newsletter in The Preamble.
What I Learned from Planning My Own Funeral
If you’ve ever wondered what’s really in an urn, whether cremation is actually “green,” or what happens when no one claims the ashes? You’re not alone. I’ve worked in trusts and estates for more than a decade, and even I didn’t know the full story behind funeral planning until recently.
That changed when I sat down with Jamie Sarche, Director of Pre-Arranged Funeral Planning at Feldman Mortuary in Denver, Colorado for Episode 13 of The Death Readiness Podcast - What You Need to Know About Embalming, Cremation, and Eco-Friendly Funerals. Jamie walked me through planning my own funeral. And I learned a lot.
The Digital Blind Spot in Your Estate Plan: A $750 Million Reminder
Imagine standing on top of a landfill, fully aware that your $750 million fortune is buried below — but barred by law from taking a single shovel to the ground.
That’s the reality for James Howells, a 39-year-old man who says his ex-partner accidentally threw away a hard drive containing 8,000 bitcoins back in 2013. Today, his story is the subject of a new documentary series: The Buried Bitcoin: The Real-Life Treasure Hunt of James Howells.
But beyond the headline-grabbing numbers and media spectacle, his experience surfaces a quieter, more relatable issue that’s often overlooked in estate planning: digital asset readiness.
It’s Going to Be Okay
In this episode of The Death Readiness Podcast, I’m not speaking as an estate attorney or a podcast host. I’m showing up as a daughter, a sister, a mother. A woman in the thick of the sandwich generation—caring for a child, walking alongside a father, and quietly planning for the day I’ll be the one who has to tell Dan again: “It’s going to be okay.”
R-E-S-P-E-C-T Your Legacy: Lessons from Aretha Franklin’s Will
I’m new to the Metro Detroit area—and I’m loving it here.
There’s a lot of pride in Detroit. People here wear Detroit T-shirts, Detroit hats—everything Detroit. We don’t need to go anywhere else when we have Detroit.
And one of Detroit’s greatest heroes—the Queen herself—is Aretha Franklin.
She’s still nearby, too: Aretha is interred at Woodlawn Cemetery, just down the road from where I live.
Aretha Franklin passed away on August 16, 2018, at the age of 76. She was unmarried at the time and left behind four adult children, including a son with special needs.
Initially, it was believed that Aretha died without a Will.
Macaroni’s Story: Why We Hit Record—and Why You Should, Too
If you’ve been listening to The Death Readiness Podcast for a while, you know we often get into the legal mechanics of estate planning, end-of-life documents, and the practical steps that make life easier for the people we leave behind. But death readiness isn’t just about having the right paperwork. It’s about preparing your family for the day when you’re no longer here. It’s about preserving who you were—what you believed, what you lived through, what mattered to you.
And that kind of preparation doesn’t come in the form of a checklist. It comes in the form of stories. That’s why this episode - Macaroni’s Story: A Granddaughter Records Her Unknown Hero - is special. We’re sharing an excerpt from The Mastroianni Family Podcast—and giving you the tools to create a private family podcast of your own.
Celebrating Our 5-Year Famliversary: A Look Back at Love, Life, and Lockdown
Five years ago, in the earliest days of the COVID-19 pandemic, my husband and I sat at our kitchen table with two incredible kids, a cell phone on speaker between us, and the Honorable Senior Judge Don R. Ash on the line from the Chancery Court of Rutherford County, Tennessee. The world had just shut down.
The Care We Can’t Do Alone: Real Talk on Aging and Support
In this week’s episode of The Death Readiness Podcast, I had the opportunity to talk with Mikelle Rappaport, a senior care consultant and founder of Golden Lifestyle Partners, and Bob Stanton, a family friend who recently made the difficult decision to move his wife of 54 years into a skilled nursing facility.
Put Yourself in a Box: Why the Harmless Error Doctrine Is No Excuse for Poor Planning
A plan is only as good as the paper it’s written—and properly signed—on. A valid, signed, witnessed and properly executed Will still matters. Yet time and again, people delay. They plan to go back to their lawyer, plan to sign next week, plan to finalize their intentions when life slows down. But life doesn’t slow down. And the result? Confusion, conflict, and sometimes devastating cost.